November 12, 2005

  • Thanks for the movie guys. That was fun.: ) So I've been reading Boy Meets Girl. I think its a really good book. That coupled with Zorro (tonight's movie) got me thinking about lust in marriage, and I learned something. Lust is wrong and damaging even in marriage. Think about it. Josh Harris says, in Boy Meets Girl, that our desire in every part of our courtship (what I think he means by this is simply, a godly, well-balanced and mentored dating relationship) should be to worship God through the relationship (to seek his glory alone in the relationship). When we are are living in the previous stated truth, which is essential to every healthy relationship, there is only a heart to honor him. Lust is born out of a desire for self-gratification, but to the Christian, a person who lives by the Spirit of God, the marriage bed is a worship service, void of selfishness, an act of thanksgiving for the purity He has created. This is where passion is found. Sex will be good within the context of worship to God, because that sex will be that which is not trying to have sex, but one which is patient. Lust is never, under any circumstances potrayed favorably in the Bible. Romans 14:twentysomething (I think that's the reference) says what is not of faith is sin. Faith is not that which brings us life, but that which is life. Please do think about it. Have a good night : )

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  • haha, no i didnt take that pic. i wish i did! but its just a layout i found on a site. hope youre doin good!!!

  • i don't know about that, dude. it depends on the meaning of lust, i suppose. i think that passion is necessary in marriage. physical attraction is crucial. and remember the idea of sin. sin came from the word in the Bible that means, "to miss the mark". that type of idea, remember? there is nothing in this world that is inherently bad. sin is a misuse of something good and pure, using it outside of what God intended it to be used for.

    ok. i just looked up the word "lust" in the american heritage dictionary. it is defined as "sexual craving, especially esxcessive or unrestrained." ok. now, excessive or unrestrained sexual craving is most definitely not good. that's true, in marriage too. [although, i don't think you're sinning on the night of your honeymoon when you are pretty much unrestrained. but that's just me. the habit of doing so, and doing it often, is definitely not good.] but lust can be merely defined as sexual craving. that is not bad. God created that in us in order to give us an incentive to essentially create life. wanting the natural satisfaction that God created for us when we do an activity, or being excited by your spouse sexually is not bad.

    i would even make the statement that no emotion is inherently bad. anger. anger is not bad. there is a place for anger, righteous anger, like Jesus had in the temple. sadness. there is a place for sadness. etc.

    now, this is true, the marriage bed should be selfless. however, there is a balance in this selflessness. steering yourself away from activities merely because you enjoy them, and you have seen people face consequences because of their obsessive enjoyment, is not a good way to live your life. i like to eat. and i have seen morbidly obese people, and my dad has told me stories about some of his patients. however, there is nothing wrong with eating the food i like. to a certain extent, this is selfish, if you look at it that way. you do have a point, though. making your spouse do something he/she does not want to do is most definitely selfish, and has no place in or out of marriage. so there are my thoughts. call me if you want to talk about it. i'd be glad.

    [on a random note, i like the background. very cool.]

  • hey dave...very thought provoking post tonight. i think i see where you are coming from, but i'm going to say i kind of am thinking between your and danny's lines. I think it's a matter of respecting your spouse but also enjoying him/her. lust is normally seen in a negative context, but i do think God originally created that kind of desire as something pure before sin entered.

    i do see what you mean though when you say it should be an act of worship in a way though. But in the same sentence everything we do should be an act of worship when you come down to it. we are to be living in faith...and i think sexual desire is included in that. in its correct place, i think God honors those desires and enjoys allowing them to be satisfied in marriage.

    huh...well...i could go on, but i won't. good wisdom though, dave. thank you for sharing. and thank you too danny.

    blessings brother! have an awesome night. -em

  • i'm w/ em. i think we can all say as young men and women that we all want to have sex and that desire is definitely there. God wouldnt put that in us so powerfully and for so many years just to tell us when we get married "NOPE! SIN! all that waiting and wanting was for nothing. b/c now once you release all that desire you've been building up since you were 12, you will be dishonoring me." obviously, if you're lusting so much over your spouse that you can't focus on God, then you've got a problem because it's idolatry. but i think until that point, we're totally in God's will.

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